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Horses are social creatures. Curious and affectionate, especially among those they trust.
In that way they are like people. We all want relationships where we can be ourselves and feel comfortable socially. Where we can be curious and open to new ideas that help us to expand our experience of life and grow without threat of judgment or censure. So we can thrive, and not merely survive.
Still, trust is a fragile thing and easily abused. Horses are slow to trust. We must earn it every time we interact with them. To do this we must be authentic and consistent every moment we spend with them. To this end we must release the ego and its toxic agenda and surrender to the truth that lies within the heart.
Canadian horse trainer, Chris Irwin, describes horses as “victims waiting to happen.” To me this says that when we want a connection with a horse we must demonstrate that we are worthy of their trust. For, when we engage with them with the intention of creating connection we’re actually asking them to relinquish their natural instinct as prey and trust that we are not, in fact, a predator.
In my opinion, one of the most precious and satisfying feelings is to have earned the trust and made a connection with one these 1,200 lb (+/-) flight animals. From this perspective alone it is a privilege to pat a horse never mind sit on its back.
Too few people understand this.
Nurture what you love,
Dorothy
Horse Mom
©Dorothy E. Chiotti … All Rights Reserved 2019 … Aimwell CreativeWorks
Musings of a Horse Mom 
You are so right. They are prey and we are predators so to have them trust us, especially when they could easily kill us, is something profoundly wonderful.
Yes, and they will always protect themselves. Sometimes by lashing out out, but most often by simply dissociating, or fleeing, if they can. … A subject for another time.
Well put! And you’re right, it is a total privilege! I feel lucky all the time with our horses for the trust they put in us.
Thank you. I am in awe of the trust my horses put in me and would rather harm myself than give them any reason to distrust me. It’s far too precious a connection, and I feel honoured to be able to have it. 🙏
This is beautiful. My nine year old daughter is determined to be a trainer and is working with her first horse now. I will be sharing this article with her. Thank you.
I applaud your daughter’s determination to do what she loves, and your commitment to helping her get a good start. Establishing trust is everything to a horse. Thank you for stopping by. 🙏🐴😊